Trauma robs you of your full life.
“Why do I end up in the same situations over and over again… even when I make an effort NOT to??”
“I don’t like being alone in the apartment, so I just stay at work. My brain doesn’t have time to ruminate if I’m busy.”
“Pot and booze. They’re my best friends. My next best friend is sleep.”
“I hate going home to my parents’ house. I feel like a little kid who has no control again.”
“Everyone treats me unfairly. If I say what I need, it gets weaponized against me. Sometimes, I just explode without caring… and then regret my actions later.”
Let’s talk about trauma…
It can be “Big T” trauma like an assault, a major accident, or combat.
Or it can be “Little T” trauma, where you experience significant distress without overt violence or disaster.
It can result from a single “big” event… or “smaller” incidents accumulating over time.
And it’s not just psychological. It’s biological, meaning it’s stored in your body.
Many of your troubles stem from your body trying to protect you.
Chronic pain, depression, anxiety, insomnia, and eating disorders are all ways that unresolved trauma can manifest in your life.
And numbing, exploding with rage, and constant worrying are examples of involuntary actions and learned behaviors of a body trying to protect us.
Once you know how your body and central nervous system work, it’s easier to understand and predict these responses.
“There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in.”
– Leonard Cohen
None of these reactions is your fault.
If a child comes home from school, never knowing if their alcoholic parent will be nice or scary, the child learns to be permanently anxious or slink about unnoticed.
If someone is bullied by family members and schoolmates, lashing out is a way of fighting back against the abuse.
If a child is mistreated or neglected by their caregivers, numbing is a way of not feeling the all-to-familiar pain of being overlooked.
Therapy with a trauma lens offers hope and healing.
Here, we aim to understand and explain why the body reacts as it does.
In trauma work, we align the disconnect between mind and body and between involuntary reactions and how you want to show up in your life.
Just because you’ve always reacted one way doesn’t mean it will hold for your future. You can learn why you’re triggered and how to regulate emotions.
You can live a better life!
Let’s talk about how I can help during your free 45-minute consultation: (203) 219-4686.